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Thursday, August 20, 2015

Walk for Life - Sunday, September 20, 2015












Annual Walk for Life

   

Even if you've never walked before, please join us this year. 

   
Sunday, September 20, 2015
Check-in between 12:30 – 3:30 PM
Fifth Avenue Chapel, Belmar
   
Our Walk is Simple!

·        Collect no money (except pledges under $10.00).
·        Only a two mile walk on the lovely Belmar boardwalk – bring the whole family.
·        Come rain or shine!
·        Walk on your own if you can’t join in the fun on Walk Day.
·        Enjoy fellowship, family fun and refreshments all for a good cause.
·        Pledges totaling $200 earns a free T-shirt.

Our Walk is Easy!

·        Set up your online fundraising page by following this link https://secure.ministrysync.com/ministrysync/event/?e=10227 and clicking “Participate.”
         
·        We also need you to kindly register, which you can do on the Walker Registration page on our website, http://www.solutionsphc.com/walkathon
  
·        Bring your completed pledge sheet the day of the walk or walk on your own and mail it to us. If you do not receive a pledge sheet at your church or in the mail, download a copy using the link above.

·        Ask EVERYONE you know to sponsor you.  You will be amazed how many friends and associates will say YES!


We are looking forward to seeing you at the Walk!

Thursday, August 13, 2015

It’s Back to School Time by Kim Iverson

During the 2014/2015 school year, our team of Straight Talk presenters met with over 4,000 students.  Those students enjoyed the interactive illustrations used to help them apply the information to their lives.  After one of our presentations, one student wrote what she liked best “were the facts we learned about our body and what we should avoid.” Another commented that “It helped me learn about making decisions.”  Many other comments have demonstrated the teens have gotten the ultimate point reporting what they will remember most is to save all sexual activity for marriage.  Opposing organizations would argue that teens will have sex anyway so a sexual risk avoidance approach is a waste of time.  I disagree and the latest national statistics prove once again that we must invest our time in teaching teens to wait, explaining why it is important and then support their decision to save all sexual activity for marriage.  “The CDC reports that in 2011-2013, 44% of female teenagers and 47% of male teenagers aged 15-19 had experienced sexual intercourse; the percentage has declined significantly, by 14% for female and 22% for male teenagers, over the past 25 years.”  This decline has happened during a time when teens are bombarded by a culture that says casual sex and multiple partners are no big deal as long as you practice “safe sex”.  Imagine the difference we could make in the lives of these teens if programs like those offered through Solutions had the funding that other organizations receive such as Planned Parenthood.  I believe teens are smart enough to choose abstinence when they understand the risks of STI exposure and unplanned pregnancy.  Pop recording artist Meghan Trainor has a line in one of her songs that I feel could sum up the lesson learned by students who are choosing to wait after realizing the potential risks of teen sex.  That line,  “Tell me, do you think I’m dumb.  I might be young, but I ain’t stupid” may have grammatical issues but, in my opinion,  should be the standard response to anyone who encourages teens to be sexually active, even with condom usage. 


With the new school year fast approaching we are looking for new presenters to work with us in the schools of Monmouth County.  We have found that Youth Pastors are well equipped to speak with the teens on these sensitive subjects and hope that you are feeling called by the Lord to join our team.  If you are interested and available during the weekday from September through June please contact the staff of Solutions or download a volunteer application here.  

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

A Voice for 11.6

     If I remain silent one more minute I may just implode.  My heart is heavy with grief for the incomparable way our society has approached two very different losses of life.   I would imagine you are familiar with the recent media reports concerning Cecil the lion who was killed during a large game hunting expedition and the undercover video taken at a Planned Parenthood (PPH) abortion clinic. The PPH video captured the pricing negotiation for body parts of aborted babies.

     In the story about the lion, reporters use his name, Cecil, and refer to him as, and I quote, “protected, gentle, famous, beloved, majestic, popular and father of 6 cubs,” (Fox News).  You see using the lion’s name helps the viewers connect with him and the unfortunate and illegal circumstances of his death.

     In the PPH undercover video, an aborted child is referred to as 11.6.  He is shown in a petri dish legally dismembered by the abortion procedure and totally unprotected.  He is called 11.6 because he was 11 weeks and 6 days old at the time of the abortion.  He will not be named and will never grow up to father children or be called beloved or gentle.  His body parts will however be sold for profit.  Where is the outcry? 

     The press did a wonderful job describing Cecil to the world; please allow me a minute to describe 11.6 to you. He is a little one that is sensitive to the touch, he squints, swallows, frowns, and puckers up his brow.  His young voice box is forming.  He can stretch out and even shows breathing -like movements.  His tiny baby teeth are forming in his gums.  His heart is almost completely formed and resembles a small version of a newborn baby’s heart.  He is about 2.5 inches in length and his main job is just to grow bigger and stronger until the day of his birth.

     Sure, we attempted to defund PPH, a slap on the wrist for the disrespect of life they have shown. Attempting to take away government funds caused a great outcry from those who say this is “another attack on women’s health.”  Let’s be realistic, the government is giving PPH a half billion dollars of tax payers money each year, money that is “not to fund abortion services.”  However, a half of billion dollars surely helps pay the bills and in turn frees up resources for advertising, social media campaigns or hiring personnel that actually results in increased abortion services.  For example when Solutions receives a grant for new computers, it allows us to channel a greater portion of our resources to services.  Don’t be fooled by the semantics.  Tax dollars may not be used to directly provide abortions, but the money is given to an abortion provider, and abortion and selling aborted baby body parts is their business.

     Where is our outcry for 11.6, dehumanized by a number instead of a name?  Where is the outcry to protect the unborn like we protect wildlife? Where is our respect for the dignity and sanctity of life?  This little one, created in God’s own image, was not only aborted but also dissected and his body parts sold for profit.  


     The heartfelt sentiment over Cecil led people to place stuffed animals at the shooter’s office, I am asking you to SHARE this article.  Thank you so much.


Thursday, June 11, 2015

The Morning After...

As Beth was driving home she felt worried and convicted over the events following the Prom. The evening felt like a roller coaster ride, everything seemed to happen so quickly. The Prom was amazing but the after-prom party at Nicole’s beach house got a little out of hand and then Beth woke up in her boyfriend Jeremy’s bedroom.

They used a condom, but unfortunately it broke. It didn’t seem to matter much last night, but now Beth’s mind was racing with questions: What if I’m pregnant? Jeremy’s had sex with other girls – what if he has an STD and gave it to me? What if my parents find out?

Nicole was Beth’s best friend—and she had a pregnancy scare a few months ago—surely she would know what to do. She recommended that Beth go to the pharmacy and buy Plan B – the “Morning After Pill.” Although it wouldn’t protect Beth from getting a sexually transmitted infection, Nicole said it would prevent a pregnancy if she took it right away.

Beth had heard you could get the Morning After Pill at the pharmacy without a prescription, but she still had a lot of questions about it, and she needed them answered…fast.
 
What is the “Morning After Pill”?

The Morning After Pill contains a mega dosage of the hormone progestin, and when it is used as directed, it prevents or ends pregnancy. It is marketed as an “emergency contraceptive.”

How does the “Morning After Pill” work?

Depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle, the pill could affect you in one of three ways:
  • Ovulation may be prevented if you haven’t already started ovulating (the egg will not be released to meet with the sperm).
  • The lining of the fallopian tubes (where fertilization occurs) may be affected so that sperm cannot reach the egg, preventing fertilization, also known as conception.
  • The lining of your uterus will become irritated, and if an egg has already been released and fertilized by the sperm, this irritation will interfere with the ability of the embryo to implant in your uterus. 

Are there side effects?

Yes. There are several short-term side effects from taking the Morning After Pill. These may include:
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Irregular and unpredictable menstrual periods
  • Breast tenderness
  • Fatigue
  • Headache 
In addition, the cramping and abdominal pain that may result from the use of Plan B® may mask the symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy, a potentially life-threatening condition in which a fertilized egg implants outside of the uterus (most often in the fallopian tubes).

It wouldn’t be like I was getting an abortion…right?

If an egg has been fertilized, and you take the Morning After Pill, it will work to prevent the embryo from implanting in your uterine wall. If this happens, an abortion will occur, because each human life begins as an embryo.3

Shortly after the sperm penetrates the egg, 46 human chromosomes come together into a complex genetic design that helps to determine the unique characteristics of a new individual-the eye and hair color, gender, skin tone, height and even the intricate swirl of the fingerprints. That new life may not be able to implant and continue to grow because of the effects that the hormones in the pills have on your uterine wall.

How can you know if an egg has been fertilized? That’s the problem – you can’t know. But we do know that sperm can reach the fallopian tubes mere minutes after intercourse,4 and if an egg has already been released, conception could occur.

So, there is a possibility that by the time you wake up the “morning after,” a new human life may have come into being. If that’s the case, when you take the Morning After Pill, it will cause a very early abortion.

The “Morning After Pill” cannot guarantee the prevention of pregnancy, nor does it protect you from
sexually transmitted infections or diseases. 


1. http://www.go2planb.com/For Consumers/TakingPlanB/Default.aspx.
2. http://www.go2planb.com/ForConsumers/About PlanB/HowItWorks.aspx.
3. Moore, K.L. and Persaud, T.V.N. The Developing Human, Clinically Oriented Embryology, 6th Edition, W.B. Saunders Company; Copyright 1998, pages 2 &3.
4. Speroff, L. and Friz, M.A., Clinical Gynecological Endocrinology and Infertility, 7th Ed. Lippincott Williams & Wilkins; Copyright 2005, p. 235.



Friday, May 22, 2015

One Woman's True Story -- Choose Love, Choose Life

I received this letter in the mail and asked the writer if I could post her story on our blog to possibly encourage someone facing an unplanned pregnancy.

The choices we make do matter. Some 27 years ago, I chose not to bring my first child into this world. I live with that decision every day.  While I know that God has forgiven me, I still wonder whether I have a son or daughter in heaven with Jesus.
I felt the need to write my story, perhaps to benefit someone like me.  I wanted to have my child and was surprised and glad when I found out I was pregnant.   My child’s father was not. I was young and did not understand the precious gift that God had given us.  Faith in God was not a part of life then; I had heard of God as a child, but was not taught about Him, nor did I understand that God is love.

My bad choices did not stop with the death of my unborn child, but rather contributed to a chain reaction of sorrowful deeds, including suicide attempts and the feeling that I was losing my mind. I cannot begin to explain to you how this “choice” robbed me of peace and joy.

At first I thought of the abortion as just a procedure.  I went into the clinic pregnant and came out not-pregnant.  I went to work the following day as though nothing had happened to me.  It was later when it hit me hard.  Several years later, when I was happily pregnant, I thought I was having a miscarriage and I was sure God was punishing me for aborting my first child.  That’s not how God works (but I didn’t know that then).  I was blessed with a beautiful baby boy and four years later I was blessed again with my second son.

When my second son was about a year old I had a break down.  At one point, I walked the streets of a large city for a day and a half, afraid to go home, for fear that my presence would cause harm to my family if they looked at me.    I remember holding a piece of cardboard in front of my face as strangers passed me by, I wanted to protect them from looking at me, because I believed that my sins would transfer over to them and I didn’t want that to happen.

Over the years I have had feelings of confusion, fear and guilt.  I have been in and out of mental institutions more than a dozen times in two different states.  My point is this…abortion is not just a choice…it is a child.  If I could say anything to someone considering abortion, it would be to please consider making an adoption plan for your child.  I have a nephew that we all adore, my sister and her husband were not able to have children of their own, and God gave them a precious child through adoption.  My nephew’s biological parents bravely chose life and placed their son into my sister’s arms.  What an unselfish act of love -- a true picture of God’s love and Jesus’ heart. 

I have asked the Lord to forgive me for having that abortion and I know there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus, but if I could change that day, THAT CHOICE, I would.  I would cherish my child and raise him myself or place him with a loving family through adoption.  I know that not every pregnancy is planned or even wanted, but the child is a gift from God for someone.  Abortion might seem like the answer to your situation, but please think carefully before you do it.  An abortion cannot be reversed.  You must live the rest of your life with your choice.

In closing remember God loves you and your unborn child and He cares about your decision.  God promises to never leave you nor forsake you.  

Pray and place your faith and trust in the Lord today and ask for the courage to choose life for your child. 





Friday, May 1, 2015

Motherhood by Teddie O'Neill



Sometimes I wonder who took the “M” out of Mother, leaving “Others” to raise our children.  It seems that in our modern definition of motherhood, the child’s need for connection has been overlooked.

Can you put into words what makes a woman a mother?  Or what makes her a good mother?  Is it simply giving birth to a child or adopting a child?  These are interesting questions and hard to answer.  Today these definitions of motherhood and what makes a good mother have “evolved” in order to fit the modern woman in America, as she adapts to her fast changing world.

Still we see so many problems with our children today and wonder why.  Parents blame the influences of other kids, teachers, the Internet, and the fact that kids today grow up in a drug culture.  Teachers blame the parents.  The truth is that the problems that our kids have come from a lot of sources.  Most kids today feel emotionally abandoned, as they don’t have any place where they feel safe.

The problem is that while the whole world’s belief system is in constant flux, the basic make-up of the baby hasn't changed.  Today’s newborn has the same needs his great grandmother had when she was born.  His natural instinct for his mother is formed in the womb as he grows from her, he hears her voice, and is shielded by her body from the world in a mysterious all-consuming way.  This bond, created by absolute dependency on the child’s part, is further enhanced after birth, as his senses identify her as his divine life giver.  Instinctively, he knows his survival depends on her both while in the womb and out of the womb.   Once born, he has an innate need to continue to bond securely with her in order to become a secure adult.

Bennett Olshaker, M.D. (The Child as a Work of Art), agreed that it’s important for the infant to have a “close, dependable loving relationship with a ‘care taking person’ He pointed out that only the mother has been provided ‘with the biological capacity to carry the infant before birth and to feed the baby with her own body after delivery.  James Dobson, family psychologist, in a recent radio program about gangs in America said that the lack of nurturing in a child’s life produces an actual chemical change in the brain.  Emotionally, such a child learns he cannot trust anyone to care for him.   Consequently, he will grow up unable to care for others and most importantly, a child who has not bonded with his mother won’t develop a conscience.

So how does the bonding process work?  The process takes time in order for the child to bond well with his mother.  But this is a two way process, as the mom needs to bond securely to her new baby as well. Many assume that she is naturally bonded through the birth process.  However, that is not true.

The new mother needs quality and quantity time with her newborn to insure her relationship with her new baby is one possessing the qualities of a strong and passionate connection, rather than just the caretaker. 

Breastfeeding is a tool that the Lord has given her (if she is able) to help this process along.  While feeding her baby, the mother must sit down and have intimate periods of time throughout the day and night alone with her baby.  It is a good beginning.

 It is through this process of bonding that the Lord changes both the mother and the baby.  For the mother, her character is transformed in a way that enables her to be selfless, loyal, committed, and passionate concerning her newborn’s wellbeing, transcending her personal desires.  Her child now has a secure fortress where he knows he is safe and loved. A place he can turn to in times of trouble.

It is when a child senses he has such a relationship with his mother that he will ultimately be able, as an adult, to separate from her as a secure individual, able to give out from his wholeness, rather than taking from his neediness.  Truly, motherhood is the most important ministry in the world. 

Theodore Roosevelt understood this concept succinctly when he stated, “If the mother does not do her duty, there will either be no next generation, or a next generation that is worse than none at all.”



Friday, March 27, 2015

Men and Abortion - One Man's Story

I met a friend for lunch the other day.  He knew that I was a peer counselor at Solutions and wanted to talk.  I didn’t know what was on his mind, but I gladly made the time.  When we got to lunch and started talking, he said, “I want to talk to you about the impact of abortion on men.”  A heavy topic for lunch.

He then proceeded to tell me his story.  Several years ago, he had his first child, a daughter.  He loved her and looked forward to having his next child, maybe a son to carry on the family name.  Unfortunately, his wife didn’t want the responsibility of motherhood and marriage, so he found himself a single dad.  He told me that he struggled for several years, balancing raising a daughter and a demanding job.  He met a number of women, but they weren’t interested in an “instant family.”

After three years of searching, he found someone that loved him and loved his daughter.  They planned a big wedding to celebrate their love.  Only one problem, they got pregnant.  Not wanting to embarrass, themselves, their family or their friends, they had an abortion.   I no longer had an appetite for lunch.

He continued his story by telling me that he and his second wife were subsequently blessed with another baby girl.  His wife was deeply impacted by her daughter’s birth and deeply saddened by the decision that they had made years ago.  She was so upset that she sought out counseling through Solution’s Post Abortion Counseling (PACE) program.  Through the program, she found understanding, comfort and peace.  She also found forgiveness.   I thought that the story was over – happy ending – but he continued.

“You know that we have three beautiful girls, and now grandchildren.  I love all of them, but never really dealt with the decision that I made so many years ago.  It has always been in the back of my mind.  Just a constant question – 'What would have happened if…..'"  I didn't know what to say, so I continued listening.  “When my grandson was born, it all hit me.  He was a beautiful little boy and he looked just like me.  Just like my son would have looked…….”  He then broke down in tears.

“It wasn’t until he was born that I realized that there was a reason that I was the last one in my family line.  I was given a son, but I chose avoiding embarrassment.  Looking back, I wish that I could do it all over again.  I now realize that I made a bad choice.  I chose convenience over life.  I know now that there isn't any real choice other than life.” He paused, and thanked me for listening.  He had been carrying this burden for over 25 years.  I realized that this was the first time that he had ever spoken to anyone about his decision.   He felt relieved.  We paid the bill and left.

As I drove home, I thought about our talk.  I was struck by one last thought – he carried his shame for over 25 years, just to avoid a few days of embarrassment. I'm glad I might be able to help someone like my friend, chose life over embarrassment, through the Men's program at Solutions.